We are having a ... boy! So we will have three boys and a girl.
In typical Janell-fashion, within minutes of finding out we were having another boy, I had the next few years of brainwashing planned out. I have determined to ingrain in the boys the concepts that: 1) as adults, they will call their mother at least once a week 2) they will marry women that I adore 3) they will bring grandchildren to visit me frequently. I'd like to throw in that 4) they will marry and live on the same continent as William and I, but figure that is a bit hypocritical. As far as Ezrie goes - I can tell there is no reason to reinforce any of the above - she is already showing signs that she knows her innate role. But I might let this little guy have a break from these lessons until he is born and gets a tooth or two.
Also good news - William is fantastic. After two years of learning to live with his illness and the very different person he had become, we are going through a very similar period of readjustment - this time in a very positive way.
William has been so supportive, helpful, engaged, amazing. He has been able to do things with the kids that I have never been able to do. He has them in great routines, taking care of their own messes, their own clothes, helping with housework, in better bedtime routines. He's been doing the dishes and laundry. He spends time with us as a family - even coming to help us clean the church yesterday. Both of us are very cautious about placing expectations on him that he might not be able to live up to - but enjoying this dramatic turn around.
I am so happy to see him happier! I feel like he has turned a very sharp corner and is rediscovering his talents and abilities. We all know what it is like to go through a period of self re-discovery after we have gone through changes and have to get to know ourselves again. As William flourishes in his practical work at school and his successes as a father and husband, I can see him going through that process and it is joyful.
We are extremely blessed.
